Today marks the anniversary of the Stonewall/Christopher Street Riots, which launched the modern LGBT-rights movement.
If youāre not familiar with the riots, hereās what happened:
We owe everything to those brave trans-women of color, homeless youth and drag queens who launched the riots and the queer revolution.
People ask why we celebrate pride. NoFo writes it much more eloquently than I ever could, here is an excerpt:
Weāre proud because despite relentless persecution everywhere we turnāwhen organized religion viciously attacks and censures and vilifies us in the name of selective morality, when our families disown us, when our elected officials bargain away our equality for hate votes, when entire states codify our families into second-class citizenship, when our employers fire us, when our landlords evict us, when our police harass us, when our neighbors and colleagues and fellow citizens openly insult and condemn and mock and berate and even beat and kill usāwe continue to survive.
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Weāre proud becauseāthanks to the incredible bravery shown by gay people who lived their lives openly in the decades before usāwe can live our lives more and more openly at home, at work, with our families, on our blogs ā¦ and even on national television.
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Weāre proud because after all weāve been through, the world is starting to notice and respect us and emulate the often fabulous culture weāve assembled from the common struggles and glorious diversity of our disparate lives.Weāre proud because this weekend weāll celebrate with drag queens, leather queens, muscle queens, attitude queens and youād-never-know-they-were-queens queens, and together we can see through the āprideā in our parade and enjoy the underlying Pride in our parade.
Quite simply, weāre proud that we have so much to be proud of.
We can take some time, and even in the face of hatred, bigotry and discrimination, we can carve a place in this world, claim it our own and celebrate.
We can celebrate, because this is our party. We don’t need anyone’s permission to celebrate:
Because even if Pride doesn’t change many minds in the outside world, it’s our PARTY, darlings. It’s our Christmas, our New Year’s, our Carnival. It’s the one day of the year that all the crazy contingents of the gay world actually come face to face on the street and blow each other air kisses. And wish each other “Happy Pride!” Saying “Happy Pride!” is really just a shorter, easier way of saying “Congratulations on not being driven completely batshit insane! Well done, being YOURSELF!”
We can celebrate the community that we have, the radical acceptance that we embody and the fact that weāve survived. We have a chance to come together, remind ourselves we belong to a larger community, have some fun and take back our city; just for a little bit. We know that hatred will continue, but still we march forward. We have pride because it helps those coming after us. In the words of Harvey Milk, it gives the next generation hope:
And this is a chance to celebrate the fact that Iāve survived. A chance to celebrate the fact that Iām a proud gay man. And even that act, powerful unto itself, has hopefully made a difference.
The most important and powerful action a person can make is to come out to those around them. Then the LGBT community isnāt a scary abstract anymore, it has a face. If you know someone who is openly LGBT, you see their humanity. You can understand that weāre not asking for anything special, just the same rights everyone else is guaranteed by the constitution. A chance to be happy. A chance to live the life we want, surrounded by those we love.
When will we stop talking about coming out?
“Many of us want to, and will: when a gay, lesbian or transgendered kid isnāt at special risk of being brutalized or committing suicide.
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“When a gay personās central-casting earnestness and eloquence arenāt noted with excitement and relief, because his or her sexual orientation neednāt be accompanied by a litany of virtues and accomplishments in order for bigotry to be toppled and a negative reaction to be overcome.”
We will stop talking about coming out when itās not news anymore, when the last barriers have finally been broken down. Weāll stop screaming for our rights when weāre finally treated as equals by our government. Weāll only stop telling our stories when they donāt matter.
The anniversary of Stonewall comes just two days after marriage equality came to all 50 states (and the anniversary of decisions in Lawrence v. Texas and Windsor v. United States), a major piece of the equality dream the our predecessors had more than 50 years ago. Ā In 11 years, we went from no marriage rights to full equality across the country. Ā We still have a lot to fight for, The Equality Act being at the top of that list, but for now, we can celebrate the ‘thunderbolt’ of equality that we have achieved:
So we keep fighting for progress, wherever we can. We celebrate our advances and keep chipping away at our obstacles: and this month we can celebrate both, as well as the individuals that make up our amazing community.
In light of the five year anniversary of the Pulse massacre, it’s more important than ever to celebrate Pride. Ā To not be intimidated by the hate, but to instead keep rising, demand equality and fight for our very right to exist. Ā What hurts the most about Orlando may be the reminder that even our own spaces, which we thought were safe, aren’t. Ā Or maybe they never really were, not while hatred and prejudice still exist. Ā But as we face, united, the epidemics of gun violence and homophobia, we can at least take solace in the fact that we, as a community, know how to win epidemics.
New research has shown that cities with larger LGBT populations fared better during the COVID pandemic: the parallels between HIV and COVID are blatant. COVID saw the same denial, government inaction, stigma and darker sides of humanity. But, it’s also what we, as a resilient community, have fought, just at warp speed. Terms like positive/negative, testing and community responsibility have now been hoisted onto the general population.
Weāre proud of how far weāve come. Weāre proud to keep fighting. Weāre proud.