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Written: 1/16/2013

And sadly, no, this is not an Eddie Izzard sketch.

Britain is set to legalize marriage equality, but in a strange twist of fate, they will prohibit the Church of England from performing gay marriages.  Which opens a strange discussion about the separation of church and state, but then again, it’s not the United States.

The Church of England will allow gay bishops, even partnered gay bishops, but only if they are celibate.  So barring the fact that they can’t get married, at least in a church setting, they have a strange set of requirements, only brought upon themselves.

So, the odd thing, is now Muslims are mad that they are being treated differently.  It’s strange, for only the CoE to be treated one way, but being the state religion, I guess they can do that.

Still, it’s all very confusing, at least to a damn Yankee across the pond.

All my best,

Mike



Written: 1/2/2013

The 9th circuit of appeals has ruled that cities may offer the BSA reduced rent.

I’m not a legal scholar by a long shot, but even to me the ruling sounds a bit fishy.  What I took away from it (and please correct me if I’m wrong) is that even though the BSA discriminates, and in this case it was determined they do based on religious principles, since that is not their main operational concern, the city can give them a lower rent, at the cost of taxpayers.

I guess I’m a bit torn.  Here in Pa., there are massive tax breaks for (oil) companies coming in to help create jobs (that’s what we’ll go with, yeah).  A non-profit isn’t creating that many jobs.  Yes, the services they provide to the community and the youth of the community are valuable, but how do you measure that against other non-profits.

If it’s just a sense of tradition, that’s not a reason at all to give out a tax break, and again, who gets to decide what’s a tradition?

Like I said, I don’t understand legal cases like this, but it’s still a shame to see taxpayer money going to help fund discrimination.

All my best,

Mike



Written: 1/2/2013

One of the causes I’ve always been interested in, is the ban on LGBT blood donation.  Which, if anyone knows me, is kind of funny.  I’ve only successfully given blood once, and it was an ordeal.

The six other times I tried, I couldn’t fill the bag, and that was after about half an hour of poking and needle sticking trying to find a suitable vein.  Heaven help me when I have to get IV’s at the hospital (which is something I never want to have to relive).

But anyway, the ban is based on the idea that LGBT persons are more likely to have HIV and other diseases, that instead of just testing the blood, like they do for all donations anyway, to just ban them from giving from the get go.  And with the need for blood always seemingly outpacing donations, it seems dumb, and unjustified.

But, quietly, Mexico has lifted their ban:

A little noticed Mexican health norm first approved in August and then published in the country’s regulatory Official Federation Diary on October 26th has gone into effect today essentially doing away with a two-decade ban on blood donations from gay and bisexual men….

The old norm (NOM 003-SSA2) explicitly banned gay and bisexual men from donating blood based on their “practices” and their “increased probability of acquiring HIV or hepatitis infection”.

The new norm (NOM 253) eliminates specific bans on gay and bisexual men and instead bans blood donations from people with HIV or hepatitis and their partners and people who engage in “risky sexual practices” regardless of their sexual identity.

If American is ever to lift their ban, I think I would certainly try to give blood.  Who knows, maybe things have changed in my arms enough that I could be a donor without only getting half a bag and then stopping.

It seems like such a weird thing, and such a small thing, but it’s all a part of the fight for equality.

All my best,

Mike



Written: 1/2/2013

2012 was a big year, for a lot of reasons.  And in the LGBT community, we have a lot to celebrate.

Towleroad has 150 “game-changing” moments of the year, from the sitting president endorsing marriage equality to engagements, the full repeal of DADT and so much more.

Outsports has a roundup of the biggest news stories of the year from the sports community.

Gay film make Ryan James Yezak put together an end of the year video.  It covers all news and pop culture, but is in his unique style (seizure warning, seriously.  I tend not to like much of what he does because of it, but this I really liked):

And finally, Towleroad has the 50 biggest coming outs of the year.  You can put me at number 51.

Of course for me, I finally began living my life to the fullest and more honestly.  I certainly have a ways to go, but I’m excited for what 2013 will have in store for me.

All my best,

Mike



Written: 12/13/2012

Merck, one of the largest pharmaceutical companies in the world has stopped giving money to the BSA, once again, citing their discriminatory policies.

This comes on the heels of UPS and Intel.

Hopefully more companies continue this trend.  For the BSA to change their policies, they have to see it will hurt them more to discriminate than to embrace equality.  This is one half of the equation, the other side is membership.  That to also has to show that they lose more due to discrimination than equality.

All my best,

The King of Spades



Written: 12/13/2012

Just a quick note to share a touching wedding video…that includes readings from Harry Potter.

I love nerds (being one myself, of course)!

All my best,

The King of Spades



Written: 12/13/2012

I’m really nervous.  And I’m going to be for the next seven months or so.  The Supreme Court is taking up the DOMA and Prop 8 cases.  A lot is at stake.

And yes, anti-sodomy laws were once ruled constitutional, to be later overturned, so it’s not the end of the battle.  And most legal scholars, and even a lot on the right are predicting that equality will win.

And if equality doesn’t win, we’ll keep fighting.  We have for so long, and we will keep at it.  These are our rights we’re fighting for (and yes, it’s absolutely absurd that we have to fight for our basic civil rights in 2012).

So until the decision comes down in June, I’ll be a nervous wreck.  Not because I need the Supreme Court to validate my existence, but because I believe in fairness and equality, and the security that comes from full marriage equality.

And if they do decide for equality, there is still more work to be done.  But just think of how exciting Pride 2013 is going to be.

All my best,

The King of Spades



Written: 12/13/2012

It’s so sad, because The Onion is always so spot on, it’s painful.  Case in point:

Supreme Court To Hear Cases Determining Whether Human Beings Deserve Equal Rights

And the follow-up:

I Get To Determine Whether Gay People Can Marry, By Clarence Thomas

All my best,

The King of Spades



Written: 12/06/2012

I love the AP Styleguide.  I’m a writer, so of course I do.

This seems strange however:

Last week the Associated Press declared war on the word “homophobia,” deciding its new stylebook would ban it (and “Islamophobia”) because a “phobia” is an “illness” and connotes a “mental disability.” Therefore, says the AP, it is not accurate and should not be used in a “political or social” context.

I’m not sure I completely understand where they are coming from, but I think that homophobia is recognizable to use.

Granted, many organizations use their own styleguide, or take the AP, or Chicago, MLA or what have you, and modify it a bit to be their own.

All my best,

The King of Spades



Written: 12/06/2012

UPS has decided to stop funding the BSA, until their discriminatory policies end.

This however, is not a rational reaction:

For example, a day after the Human Rights Campaign repeated the charge that the Family Research Council was a “hate group,” an employee of another LGBT organization walked in to the headquarters of the Family Research Council, armed with 50 rounds of ammunition and a bagful of Chick-fil-A sandwiches, and began shooting the “haters” who worked there. According to Thomas Strobhar, President of the Corporate Morality Action Center, “UPS should be careful whom they support with money that belongs to all the shareholders. The Boys Scouts are a national treasure with legitimate interests regarding the safety of the scouts, while the Human Rights Campaign has contributed greatly to a lack of civility in public discourse.”

All my best,

The King of Spades

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