Written: 10/27/2012
One thing that has been instrumental for me, has been the knowledge that I have a couple space spaces. Sometimes it’s not even going to those place, but just knowing that I have access to them.
One such place is a friend’s house. And we of course argue back and forth, so much of me doesn’t want to be an inconvenience, it’s been lifesaving to have a place where I can put on a movie, sit on the couch and just get out of my head and stop thinking for a couple hours.
There’s more to the relationship than that, I consider him a brother and we’ve known each other for years, and most of all, we understand each other and the monsters in each other’s heads.
Well, maybe we don’t understand the monsters exactly, but we understand that they are there, don’t judge each other for them, and just let each other work through them in our own time, with help from the other.
And that’s so hard in today’s society, I think a big part of the trouble is that we’re men, and the macho stereotypes force us to pretend that we’re fine.
But that safe space is there for me, and I hope that you have your own as well.
All my best,
The King of Spades
