Written: 1/12/2012
Rob over at Waking Up Now has a great article. It’s short, so I’ll just link to it, but first, a thought.
Many who wish to take away my rights, those in the Catholic church especially, love to say they have nothing against gay people, but we should be celibate.
Now, sex isn’t everything. I have work, friends, random adventures that I find myself off, and well, shit to do. However, sex is still part of life.
So when someone is told to just ignore their feelings, and their romantic attractions, and to never, ever act on any of them, it’s denying a part of them. An integral part of them. What we do in the bedroom is not and should not be public knowledge. But a good portion of our romantic lives are public: who we date, our complaints to friends, families, co-workers and strangers about those dates and significant others, pictures on our phones, our desks, phone calls from those we love. All of these create a public dimension to our personal, sexual lives.
To keep that hidden, which I’ve done for so long now, is tough. It take a lot of work, and a lot of energy. And a lot of disappointment. I can’t talk about things I want to with friends, I can’t bitch and cry about rejection (or most likely in my case, unpack it over a few beers). I like to think that I deserve better. But even sometimes, that’s hard to realize.
So the next time someone says the LGBT community are fine, just as long as they’re not having sex, think about a celibate life for yourself.
But hey, I can just not have sex, right?
All my best,
The King of Spades
