Written: 6/23/2012

I’ve been away at camp, and a lot has happened on the national stage for the BSA.

First up, Zach Wahls delivered over 275,000 signatures opposing the BSA’s ban on LGBT members, which put in motion a policy review:

BSA spokesman Deron Smith said Wednesday it would be referred to a subcommittee, which will then make a recommendation to the national executive board. The process would likely be completed by May 2013, according to Smith, who said there were no plans at this time to change the policy.

Said Wahls:

“As both an Eagle Scout with a personal investment in the success of the Boy Scouts of America and as the son of a lesbian couple, it means a lot to see this change finally set in motion,” added Wahls.

It’s easy to think that this will go nowhere, to think that the BSA will just hope that no one will remember in a year.  However, from what I know about the local level (and we’re one of the largest councils in the country, so I think there is a lot of correlation), the decisions made in subcommittees are almost always ratified by the Board.

It’s not a smokescreen. This proposal was made after Jen Tyrrell’s pettion on Change.org. So even though this has been brought up in the past, it’s never gotten nearly the level of attention that it has today. And as another departure from the past, there’s never been a group — which I actually launched in coordination with a number of other Eagle Scouts today called Scouts For Equality — and we’re going to be working with a number of different groups to really build a community of scouts — Eagle scouts, former scout leaders, that sort of thing — we’re really going to work toward making this policy change.

Wahls talks about Scouts of Equality here:

I’ve been tearing up reading some of the stories on the site, it’s amazing reading those, and heartening as well, knowing that there are so many other people like me, and so many allies, out there.

But the biggest movement, I think, came in a statement from one of the national board members:

“Ernst & Young is proud to have such a strong record in LGBT inclusiveness. As CEO, I know that having an inclusive culture produces the best results, is the right thing for our people and makes us a better organization. My experience has led me to believe that an inclusive environment is important throughout our society and I am proud to be a leader on this issue. I support the meaningful work of the Boy Scouts in preparing young people for adventure, leadership, learning and service, however the membership policy is not one I would personally endorse. As I have done in leading Ernst & Young to being a most inclusive organization, I intend to continue to work from within the BSA Board to actively encourage dialogue and sustainable progress.”

Just like our council, if the national board gets enough pressure from inside itself, the change will happen.  I think that the biggest linchpin is going to be Randall Stephenson, CEO of AT&T and also a National Board Member.  AT&T is incredibly important to the BSA, especially with the new Bechtel Summit in West Virginia.  And I think that his call for equality would cause the rest of the board to follow.

Will it happen?  I can only hope so.  Until then, I will keep on, searching for new employment, but also trying to ensure that at least in the camping program, we are as kind, equal and open to everyone as we can be.

All my best,

The King of Spades

Written: 6/23/2012

Towleroad has an article up about a new ad campaign:

I like it, I think it’s nostalgic enough to engage people to give it a second look, and I like the execution of the stickers themselves.

Check out the whole article here.

All my best,

The King of Spades

Written: 6/23/2012

Joe My God has an awesome infographic about the cost of marriage equality, you can check out the full version here.

All my best,

The King of Spades

Written: 6/23/2012

I’ve been thinking a lot about Pride this year.

I was really hoping that I’d have a new job, so I could go down and enjoy pride this year.  I can only hope I’m in a better place next year (or the BSA is in a better place).

But NoFo has a great article about pride, and what it means.  Check it out here.

We’re proud because we are smart enough to overcome the self-loathing that our increasingly venomous, mindlessly theocratic society forces on us, and we have the power to stop its destructive cycle by fighting back and by making intelligent choices involving sex and drugs and money and relationships and the way we live our lives.

All my best,

The King of Spades

Written: 6/23/2012

The New York Times has an amazing article written for Father’s Day.  Check it out here.

I realized then that I was crying instead of laughing. I couldn’t explain it except to say there is nothing more overwhelming than seeing your child experience true love.

All my best,

The King of Spades

Written: 5/29/2012

I leave for camp in less than a week.

My life has been crazy leading up to this, my brother’s wedding, not to mention the merger, which has added a second summer camp operation for me to support, as well as the imminent departure of one of my bosses has created a spring I never even saw as it passed me by.

I can remember a time looking forward to going to camp to work for the summer.  Now it’s something I dread.

I love being outside, I love that place.  But I hate what it has made me become, what it does to my stomach, perpetually tied in knots.

I hate that I hate going to camp.

A big part of it is the fact that I’m overworked.  Illegally most likely, as I’m learning.  My bosses, who make two or three times (at least) what I do are at camp as well, I didn’t sign up to go back each summer.  I have a life here, people that I take care of.

But instead, it’s another summer of missing so much here at home, being away from my friends, and constantly surrounded by fear.

Even those I’ve worked with for years, I am still wary of.  One of these days someone will wonder why I never go out to the bar with everyone else.  Yes, I am usually working late into the night (at least 9, but usually 11, just to start it all again back in the office by 6:45 the next morning), but I never go out because I don’t feel safe on the mountain, and I don’t feel safe with anyone.

This will be my eleventh summer.  I am pretty far up there in terms of tenure (but there certainly are those with more experience), but it only seems to get harder.

Two years ago, I had reached a breaking point like this, I tried to leave, but my better judgement, as well as an offer by my boss convinced me to stay.  I remember driving off of the property for what I thought would be the last time. And I cried so hard.

I am good friends with the rangers, we understand each other better than most since we work year-round, and I know they would let me come back and visit, but they won’t be there forever, and I would also miss them of course.  But saying goodbye to what was such a big part of my life, what helped shape me, was torture, just like going back is.

I’m very tired.  Tired of playing the games and putting on a show.  But for now, I have no choice.  We’ll see what happens, maybe something will improve soon, or maybe at least I’ll finally get some time alone where I can cry for a good hour and get it all out of my system, keeping it pent up inside me is wearing me down faster than anything else right now.

All my best,

The King of Spades