Note: Yesterday’s Camp NaNoWriMo writing was a recap for one of my DnD games, so it’s nothing published here, but I’m still on track for the month!
This morning was the Second Annual Pittsburgh Frontrunners Back of the Pack Fourth of July Run and Brunch (For a Cure). Note, it’s not really ‘For a Cure,’ I just add that. Anyway, our little pace group is wonderful. The tradition started last year when the Fourth fell on one of our normal running days we go out with the Frontrunners, and instead of skipping the day, we got together, and a tradition was born.
There’s something to be said for being with groups of the same people. Yes, safe spaces are vital and needed, but that’s just one step. Actually being with other people that are also considered ‘other’ is hugely gratifying. It helps us remember that we’re not alone, that we’re not wrong in any way.
As brunch continued, the conversation turned to queer theory, and in this case, the actual use of the word, ‘queer.’ We were able to discuss, in a candid way that I think would have been prohibitive if there weren’t other queer people there, the evolution of the word, it’s use in the lexicon and how different generations view and use the word. That spawned side conversations that spanned coming out stories, workplace discrimination, travel, safety precautions, family dynamics, therapists and Netflix specials.
We talked freely about going to different parts of the county and being cognizant of hiding who we are in order to remain safe. Even in places like San Francisco, the world is dangerous, and though we’ve come so far in the 49 years since Stonewall, we still have a ways to go.
But maybe, just maybe, earnest conversations, with friends and way too much food, will help to bring us all a little closer together. A little tighter community.
All my best,