Written: 1/12/2012
Those politicians who “doth protest too much” against the gays. Well….
All my best,
The King of Spades
Written: 1/12/2012
Rob over at Waking Up Now has a great article. It’s short, so I’ll just link to it, but first, a thought.
Many who wish to take away my rights, those in the Catholic church especially, love to say they have nothing against gay people, but we should be celibate.
Now, sex isn’t everything. I have work, friends, random adventures that I find myself off, and well, shit to do. However, sex is still part of life.
So when someone is told to just ignore their feelings, and their romantic attractions, and to never, ever act on any of them, it’s denying a part of them. An integral part of them. What we do in the bedroom is not and should not be public knowledge. But a good portion of our romantic lives are public: who we date, our complaints to friends, families, co-workers and strangers about those dates and significant others, pictures on our phones, our desks, phone calls from those we love. All of these create a public dimension to our personal, sexual lives.
To keep that hidden, which I’ve done for so long now, is tough. It take a lot of work, and a lot of energy. And a lot of disappointment. I can’t talk about things I want to with friends, I can’t bitch and cry about rejection (or most likely in my case, unpack it over a few beers). I like to think that I deserve better. But even sometimes, that’s hard to realize.
So the next time someone says the LGBT community are fine, just as long as they’re not having sex, think about a celibate life for yourself.
But hey, I can just not have sex, right?
All my best,
The King of Spades
Written: 1/12/2012
I’ve never been a kid person (ironic, I know). I just don’t connect well to young kids. That’s a whole different blog post, but suffice to say, I’m looking to have kids (at least right now).
However, sometimes, asshats need to be reminded that members of the LGBT community can be awesome parents (just like they can be shitty parents too):
The Williams Institute, a research center on sexual orientation law and public policy at UCLA School of Law, has announced new findings from the U.S. National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study (NLLFS), the longest-running study ever conducted on American lesbian families (now in its 24th year). In an article published today in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the 17-year-old daughters and sons of lesbian mothers were asked about sexual abuse, sexual orientation, and sexual behavior.
The paper found that none of the 78 NLLFS adolescents reports having ever been physically or sexually abused by a parent or other caregiver.This contrasts with 26 percent of American adolescents who report parent or caregiver physical abuse and 8.3 percent who report sexual abuse. According to the authors, “the absence of child abuse in lesbian mother families is particularly noteworthy, because victimization of children is pervasive and its consequences can be devastating
Not that science and reason has ever convinced bigots to change their minds though, but it’s nice to see a study like this.
Rob, over at Waking Up Now, takes over in another amazing column, please have a read (it’s also a piece about how those seeking to take away our rights selectively edit research done on the topic)
All my best,
The King of Spades
Quick update for everyone, let’s see what I have for you today:
First up, just a reminder for everyone:
I could go on, but let’s remember, if God is more concerned with a football game than starving children, people dying of disease, natural disasters, etc, I would rather find a new religion, God wouldn’t deserve me. Thankfully though, that’s not the case.
Need a primer on how primary elections work? I did:
If you need a good laugh, and cry, check out Clients From Hell. It’s bad. And so, so true.
This is one of my favorite bits from stand up ever. It’s from Patton Oswalt’s new special, and is amazing:
Pensblog covers why the Pens have been on a four-game slump: the Elmo Balloon died.
Over on his blog, Lev Grossman has a fan-created image of when Alice first saw Brakebills. This is amazing:
That’s it for now, have a great one!
Quick update for everyone, let’s see what I have for you today:
Never covers a new study: and you should call your mom.
Kempt has rules for a pretty cool game to play when you go out to eat. Although I don’t think it would really work with me and my friends. We’re happy enough to not look at our phones.
Another follow up to the Shit Girls Say:
Another short post, have a great one!
As someone from Southwestern Pennsylvania, whenever Santorum is in the news, I feel obliged to apologize for him. Please don’t hold it against us, we’re a wonderful region and you should totally come visit.
But as a friendly reminder, even if he was really running for President (he has no chance of winning either the nomination or the election, and he knows it. He’s running for a job at FOX news for the next four years), he has quite a few problems.
You’ve probably heard a lot, so I’ll put some thoughts behind the jump:
Update for everyone, here we go:
First up, the new video from the British Heart Association:
Copyranter covers a Big F’in sale in Japan. Really.
Possibly the most inane correction ever:
Joho covers the reaction to “Free Hugs.” There are two, but the image posted is just awesome.
This video has been making it’s rounds, check it out:
Copyranter showcases this shower curtain. I kind of like it, but could never see anyone actually paying money for it:
Unplggd takes a look at various types of light bulbs and their energy consumption.
And I Heart Pittsburgh finds this amazing cut map on Etsy:
That’s it for now, back soon with more!
Quick update for everyone, hope you enjoy
First up, someone has taken all of books from Skyrim and made them into eBooks that you could download.
I’m not into homebrewing, but this is pretty cool idea.
Okay, so really quick update, I thought I had more ready to go, but not yet. I’ll be back soon.
Quick update for everyone, let’s see what I’ve rounded up this time:
First up, if you’ve seen the many parodies of “Shit Girls Say,” this is probably one of the more clever ones. Although not accurate (unless it’s a silent order of course):
Following yesterdays political news in Iowa, BuzzFeed has 25 people google’ing “Santorum” for the first time. Hilarity ensues.
One of the blogs I follow is UpADownA. And they posted this very beautiful image of an oatmeal stout (my favorite kind of beer):
Makes me want to to drink a New Holland Poet.
George Michael (the singer, not the Arrested Development character) is rightfully pissed…after Christian groups were praying for his death while he had pneumonia. Note to those groups: Jesus told us to love one another. I don’t remember anything about hate. You’re doing it wrong.
Today’s whoops from the Catholic Church. I feel sorry for the kids though, but at least they got financial assistance.
I know it’s after Christmas, but here’s a really well-done animation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsuWPQ5ZGX4
That’s it for now, be back soon, have a great one!
Written: 1/2/2012
I try not to talk about my personal life that much. Okay, you can quit laughing.
The purpose of this blog is a place for me to talk about being a gay employee at a workplace that would fire me if they knew. And of course I cover politics and religion, and I hope that after I find a new job, to keep the “really gay” things over here in this blog.
But I don’t talk about my sex life, or relationships or things of that nature. There are times I want to use this space to explore some things, but don’t want to get into too much detail, lest I burn the minds of you, dear readers.
But anyway, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my relationships with people, especially with the death of my friend, the camp director.
I’ve known this for a long time, but I think a new understanding of it, something just clicked.
I take care of everyone else around me. To a fault. And I think with all the work I’ve done lately taking care of my friends, and I’ve realized that maybe I need someone to help me take care of myself.
I’ve always said that I’m happier single. But I’m not closed off if anything were to come along. Maybe I’m just scared of being too close to drama, so maybe I just need to find more people who are drama-free.
But thinking about having someone that I could lean on in the context of a relationship, someone to help me through life (and vice-versa of course), seems really envious.
And of course, I would have to learn to let myself be helped, and be more open. Keeping secrets for so long has made me distrustful, made me angrier than I seem, and I hate that. I hate that so very much. And I think I would need some help to change that back. But being so open is scary, to anyone I suppose, but I’d like that, that’s for sure.
So that’s a little peek into the inner workings of me, I hope it wasn’t too scary.
All my best,
The King of Spades
