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Today marks the 48th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, which launched the LGBT-rights movement.

If you’re not familiar with the riots, here’s what happened:

We owe so much to those brave trans-women of color, homeless youth and drag queens who launched the riots and the queer revolution.

People ask why we celebrate pride.  NoFo writes it much more eloquently than I ever could, here is an excerpt:

We’re proud because despite relentless persecution everywhere we turn—when organized religion viciously attacks and censures and vilifies us in the name of selective morality, when our families disown us, when our elected officials bargain away our equality for hate votes, when entire states codify our families into second-class citizenship, when our employers fire us, when our landlords evict us, when our police harass us, when our neighbors and colleagues and fellow citizens openly insult and condemn and mock and berate and even beat and kill us—we continue to survive.

We’re proud because—thanks to the incredible bravery shown by gay people who lived their lives openly in the decades before us—we can live our lives more and more openly at home, at work, with our families, on our blogs … and even on national television.

We’re proud because after all we’ve been through, the world is starting to notice and respect us and emulate the often fabulous culture we’ve assembled from the common struggles and glorious diversity of our disparate lives.

We’re proud because this weekend we’ll celebrate with drag queens, leather queens, muscle queens, attitude queens and you’d-never-know-they-were-queens queens, and together we can see through the “pride” in our parade and enjoy the underlying Pride in our parade.

Quite simply, we’re proud that we have so much to be proud of.

We can take some time, and even in the face of hatred, bigotry and discrimination, we can carve a place in this world, claim it our own and celebrate.

We can celebrate, because this is our party.  We don’t need anyone’s permission to celebrate:

Because even if Pride doesn’t change many minds in the outside world, it’s our PARTY, darlings. It’s our Christmas, our New Year’s, our Carnival. It’s the one day of the year that all the crazy contingents of the gay world actually come face to face on the street and blow each other air kisses. And wish each other “Happy Pride!” Saying “Happy Pride!” is really just a shorter, easier way of saying “Congratulations on not being driven completely batshit insane! Well done, being YOURSELF!”

We can celebrate the community that we have, the radical acceptance that we embody and the fact that we’ve survived.  We have a chance to come together, remind ourselves we belong to a larger community, have some fun and take back our city; just for a little bit.  We know that hatred will continue, but still we march forward.  We have pride because it helps those coming after us.  In the words of Harvey Milk, it gives the next generation hope:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWo8BKJCxYQ

And this is a chance to celebrate the fact that I’ve survived.  A chance to celebrate the fact that I’m a proud gay man.  And even that act, powerful unto itself, has hopefully made a difference.

The most important and powerful action a person can make is to come out to those around them.  Then the LGBT community isn’t a scary abstract anymore, it has a face.  If you know someone who is openly LGBT, you see their humanity.  You can understand that we’re not asking for anything special, just the same rights everyone else is guaranteed by the constitution.  A chance to be happy.  A chance to live the life we want, surrounded by those we love.

When will we stop talking about coming out?

“Many of us want to, and will: when a gay, lesbian or transgendered kid isn’t at special risk of being brutalized or committing suicide.

“When a gay person’s central-casting earnestness and eloquence aren’t noted with excitement and relief, because his or her sexual orientation needn’t be accompanied by a litany of virtues and accomplishments in order for bigotry to be toppled and a negative reaction to be overcome.”

We will stop talking about coming out when it’s not news anymore, when the last barriers have finally been broken down.  We’ll stop screaming for our rights when we’re finally treated as equals by our government.  We’ll only stop telling our stories when they don’t matter.

The anniversary of Stonewall comes just two days after marriage equality came to all 50 states (and the anniversary of decisions in Lawrence v. Texas and Windsor v. United States), a major piece of the equality dream the drag queens, homeless youth and the rest of Stonewall protesters had less than 50 years ago.  In 11 years, we’ve gone from no marriage rights to full equality across the country.  We still have a lot to fight for, ENDA being at the top of that list, but for now, we can celebrate the ‘thunderbolt’ of equality that we have achieved:

So we keep fighting for progress, wherever we can.  We celebrate our advances and keep chipping away at our obstacles: and this month we can celebrate both, as well as the individuals that make up our amazing community.

In light of the Orlando massacre, it’s more important than ever to celebrate Pride.  To not be intimidated by the hate, but to instead keep rising, demand equality and fight for our very right to exist.  What hurts the most about Orlando may be the reminder that even our own spaces, which we thought were safe, aren’t.  Or maybe they never really were, not while hatred and prejudice still exist.  But as we face, united, the epidemics of gun violence and homophobia, we can at least take solace in the fact that we, as a community, know how to win epidemics.

We’re proud of how far we’ve come.  We’re proud to keep fighting.  We’re proud.



Alright, been a bit behind due to Half Marathon training I started writing this in May, but forgot about the draft, sorry about that, but it’s updated and finally finished- but let’s see what we have today.  First up, a great letter from the Good Men Project about the people we’ve lost due to the election.

The Buffy 20th anniversary reunion.

Surviving the World has a great comic for Pride:

Science has created a drip-free wine bottle!

A Federal Court found that the Civil Rights Act protects LGBT employees from workplace discrimination.  This is huge, but will likely be fought (hint, read on).

In one 24-hour span, the new administration delivered three huge blows to queer rights: erasing us from the census, removing workplace protections for federal contractors and slashing budgets of programs to fight HIV/AIDS.

Randy Rainbow serves up an awesome Wicked parody:

PA legislator Brian Sims was being harassed by an online troll. So he called the troll’s grandmother.

Can we all just finally agree that Andrew Sullivan is a horrible person?

The problem with gay conservatives is a total lack of empathy.  A great piece by Slate.

The beautiful tribute to Carrie Fisher at Star Wars Celebration:

Betsy DeVos will not protect LGBTQ students.  This is my shocked face.

An awesome follow-up from an Outsports story, I love seeing people around the country (and world) being able to help each other!

A fully magical* pub is set to open, all set in the Harry Potter world!  *Magic achieved via science and movie affects.

This dropped from the Hamilton Mixtape this week, and it’s amazing:

The full, original text of Tolkien’s “Beren and Luthien” is, for the first time, available.  For those who have studied Tolkien, this is a huge deal.  That story is pretty much the basis for the lore that then came full circle during the Lord of the Rings.

Juno has been sending back jaw-droppingly beautiful shots from Jupiter, take a look!

A new rule for the New York Subway (or at least newly being enforced) is that all dogs must fit in a bag (or other carrier). So New Yorkers are doing exactly what you think they are.  

Eli Lieb has a beautiful cover of “Castle on a Hill:”

A reminder that the Catholic Church still considers gay people ‘intrinsically disordered’ and other deeply offensive bullshit.

And a Republican lawmaker in Missouri thinks there is a literal distinction between humans and gays.

Alright, that’s it for now, I’ll be back with more, I have a couple other drafts to finish up!



Preview: The story of this race report actually began more than a decade ago, when the Port Authority closed off a section of the T track…

Race information

Goals

Goal Description Completed?
A 5K: PR Yes
B 5K: Sub 30 Yes
C Half: Finish Yes
D Half: Don’t walk Yes
E Half: Enjoy it Yes

Pictures

Training

After running the EQT 10-Miler in the fall, I decided to use another HH training plan, this time going for his Novice 2 Half plan, since one of my goals was to bump up to running four days a week. I hit every single one of the runs, although had to do a lot of moving the days around due to travelling for work. While not ideal, it still got me through injury free, so I was thankful for that for my first half. Most of my long runs were half on pavement/cement and half on trail. In hindsight, I wish I had done more time on the pavement, but otherwise I was very pleased with my long runs, I really came to enjoy them, except for my final 12 mile run, but that was due to the temperature being in the high seventies and muggy as all hell.

A friend from the Frontrunners and I also became accountability buddies about three weeks out from race day, and we texted each other each day to make sure were foam rolling, which helped a lot to ease quite a bit of stiffness that I had accumulated.

Pre-Race: 5K

Friends and I always volunteer Thursday night, helping to set up the expo (we unpack every single shirt. Good lord, there are so many) and going back down Friday, packet pick-up was a breeze. I ended up playing the part of “packet mule” picking up seven total (including two for myself). I had quite a collection of drawstring bags on my back walking through the convention center! Normal assortment of vendors, although to be honest, I was sad that this is the first festival (of any kind) that I didn’t see Gutter Helmet. If there’s a place to buy booth space, they are usually there, I’ve seen them at Pride and at alternative-fuel vehicle conventions.

My best friend’s wife comes over the night before this race every year and we made waffles with peanut butter and honey and watched an animated movie. The “movies for ages 3-4 and 5-7” fit us just right on Netflix.

Race: 5K

It rained. It was gross, but we knew it was going to be going into it. I’ve run enough in the rain and snow that it didn’t bother me, although other friends I was running with complained. In my mind, this was actually the A event for me to race. I’ve run a sub-30 5K on a track many times, but never did in a race. This was the very first race I ever ran, so it’s a great benchmark for me each year, and I really wanted to break 30 this year. /u/ahf0913 even predicted that I would so in my mind, the pressure was on.

My friend who paced me at the 10-miler ran with me, as my ‘almost full out race pace but not quite since I’m running my first half tomorrow’ pace fits neatly into his shake-out race for the full the next day. We settled in, and because of the crowds, fell a bit behind the 10:00/mile pacer. Which I enjoyed: he was great eye candy. But eventually we passed him after the first mile. My friend looked at his watch and said that we were actually running a 9:30 pace, which was great for me! There was an unexpected bottleneck going across one bridge (one side was closed for construction), but otherwise, just normal foot traffic in a race that size. The rest of the race was typical, lots of great cheering fans, including the woman I look for every year as we leave Allegheny Commons and head for the bridge. She always has a pot and a metal spoon; last year I called out that I look for her ever year, and we had another moment this year, she really is just my favorite spectator on the course!

We cross the bridge and take in the last mile. As we turn onto the Boulevard of the Allies, I see the clock time, try to do some quick mental calculations, hurt my brain, and just give it a great kick. Chip time: 29:33, knocking a minute off my 5K race PR and a minute and a half from my time last year!

Post-Race: 5K

The weather was raining and cold, so we skipped the finish line festival, and like so many others, ducked into the T to go back to the North Shore, we did however meet at Lost Child, as is our tradition, since we have the mentalities of children. Crammed onto the subway, as we were headed under the river, I glanced up and saw a friend from the Frontruners and his we chatted through people’s arms until we could get off at the platform. I met his husband, they congratulated me on my PR and wished each other luck for the next day.

We did a quick change and stretch at a friend’s hotel, I lost my voice cheering for the Kid’s Marathon as we walked back to the Expo where I cheesed for a picture with a giant 13.1. Also of note, there is another giant cut out of Dick’s (they sponsor the race) where you stand in as the I. Of course I did that, because it was a giant dick, just calling to me….but my friend hasn’t sent me that picture yet.

Pre-Race: Half

I spent the night before anxiously refreshing the weather. It was on the cusp of me needing long sleeves, and while I had worn long sleeves during the 5K, I got a tad overheated at the end, so I finally decided to go with short sleeves. I do a really good job over-hydrating the weeks before a race, so I got up four times in the middle of the night, otherwise though, it was a restful night. I take the busway into town, I don’t want to deal with traffic, so head to the park ‘n ride and catch the 5:00 bus.

Pre-Race: Super Secret Subway

Okay guys, here’s the thing: I’m a closet public transportation nerd. Like, big time. When I used to work in the Hill District, I would take the busway into town then walk up, sometimes cutting through the Steel Plaza subway station if I had gone to the gym. I’m still looking into it, but from what I can tell, at least ten years ago (although probably longer), the subway connector between Penn Station (at the end of the busway) and Steel Plaza was shut down, cutting off direct access to the busway from the subway. They took out the track allowing cars to loop around, but left the rest. Well, for race weekend, THEY OPENED IT BACK UP! One-day, special edition, never before have I ridden, hidden subway track! Here’s a map in case you were interested. It’s okay, you can skip ahead to the next section, I’m going to continue to nerd out for a bit here.

So I get off the bus and head over. I’m the only one. It’s not even the way I’m going, I just want to say that I rode it. It was glorious, and really, really short, but totally worth it. Spoiler: I rode it again that afternoon after the race!

Because the Frontrunners had over 20 members running on Sunday, we were part of the Running Club Rally, so I got to head to the SCRR lounge, have some fruit and use the bathroom, all while looking around awkwardly for someone I knew.

Race: Half

I joined some friends in Corral D, which honestly, was a great decision, I wanted to try to stick with a 10:30 pacer. We got started late (compared to previous years, I was told) and didn’t cross the start line until about 7:45, but I did hear some Justin Timberlake and Lady Gaga as we waited, so that was good. During the first mile or two actually was able to see both /u/karmicbias and /u/miikermb which was so awesome! My friend was amazed I had actually met people from Reddit in real life, she thought that was just an urban legend that never actually happens!

My goal was to just enjoy my first half and have fun. A good friend stuck with me, and we kept each other motivated and entertained. I’m kind of a goof-ball and play off the crowd, so I spent 13 miles cheering on spectators and complimenting their signs and hats. A few times, other runners commented that they wanted to stick with us for the entertainment value, and we put in plugs for other races we run together.

We stopped so she could use the bathroom once, and between the wait, and my legs tightening up, we lost a bit of time, but I’m taking that as it will be easier for me to get a new PR the next time I run a half!

The crowd support was great, although there were certainly stretches where it was sparse, but that was to be expected. South Side was a lot of fun, as was the polka band in the West End. The crowd at Station Square was pretty awesome as well.

The big hill for the half course is the Birmingham Bridge, which I’ve run enough times that I was prepared for it. Although by then, the sun was out in full force and it had warmed up a bit into the 50’s, and it affected quite a few. After that, there was a small hill into Uptown, which was where I failed pretty hard during a training run, so even though I slowed down, I made it without stopping, which was huge for me.

Coming down the last mile, through downtown was amazing. I had one earbud in for the race, just for some music for the quiet periods, but as we passed The Paint Bucket, I tucked it away, taking in the screaming crowd. We took a left onto Grant and then the right onto the Boulevard towards the finish line. As we were coming down Grant, the crowds were packed, and I yelled out “Pittsburgh, show me some love!” getting them riled up even more and getting quite a few high fives out of the deal, so it was a win-win!

All in all, I cheesed for the camera quite a bit, ran a solid, consistent race and had an absolute blast doing it!

Best sign: Run like United needs your seat

Race Day Bingo boxes checked: Happy cop, angry cop, happy EMT, bored EMT, barefoot runner, Vibram 5-fingers runner, running in costume, over-prepared guy (about 17 GUs on his belt), under-prepared runner (walking in jeans and a heavy rain coat less than a mile in), and somehow: runner reading a book. That one hurts a lot, like I’m going to get an aneurysm if I keep thinking about the how and the why.

Post-Race: Half

Collected all the food and things. While we had bags to collect the water and chips and fruit and Smiley Cookies, they were the last things we got, which was dumb. Should have been medal, heat sheet, bag then the rest, hopefully that is changed for next year.

Met up with friends, helped them find their gear check bags, got my Steel Challenge medal from one of my favorite P3R employees (and promised to volunteer at the Triathalon again this year) and then headed to the hospitality tent as another reward for the Running Club Rally. The Frontrunners took a group photo with the PR bell and then we all headed home our separate ways. I traveled via the T back to the busway with a fellow club member, and we rode the special edition connector again! This time, we paid special attention to the sparks the track was throwing off. I think it needs some more maintenance if it’s going to be in regular rotation again.

What’s next?

It was a great weekend, one that I look forward to every year. I love the celebration of our personal achievements and the hard work we all put into ourselves paying off in such a fun way that brings the whole city together.

My feet are toughening up too, only had problems with one toe, but the nail doesn’t even look like it will fall off. My big goals are to further work on my nutrition and I desperately need to improve the hours of sleep I get each night. After a week off, I’d like to keep building my base, and maybe even add in a fifth day of running, but I’m not sure about that yet, but looking at my schedule, if I keep doing the four mile runs with the Frontrunners Saturday mornings, I could move my long run to Sundays, giving me five days a week. I also want to switch up my cross-training (and add in more stretching yoga) and strength training days, just to improve a little bit more in those areas as well, but I’m taking it all one thing at a time.

I’m eyeing the Greensburg Half in the fall, but they don’t have a date for that yet, and there’s a few small races coming up that I’ll be doing (Rainbow Dash, Great Race, Stride for Pride, Mario Lemieux, plus a couple virtuals for Zombies, Run and Beat the Blerch). My pacer friend gave me his old GPS watch (a Forerunner 10) so I can use that to help me with speed work going forward.

As I mentioned before, one of the reasons I run is that it helps me manage my depression. I work through things and it helps me make connections, as well as improve my mood. My long runs were perfect for that, I would figure things out and really see a considerable improvement in my mood, as well as solutions to problems I was facing. Races do not provide me the time to think like that. I worked at a camp for 11 years, and I used all that experience to make an ass out of myself for 13.1 miles to entertain those around me. I loved every second of that, but that was for others, not for me.

I need to remember that I do need to race, to mark my improvements, but also as a way to give back, just a little. But I need to go into it with the mindset that I’m not going to have any mental revelations, that way, I can just enjoy it for what it is. After the race, lots of people told me how proud they were of me and that was amazing (although a bit uncomfortable, since I hate having the spotlight on myself), but I tried to take it all in. Hopefully that’s a lesson I can better learn with each race.



Alright, let’s see what we have today.  First up, we salute you bravely fired McDonald’s social media employee

Mostly Human takes a look at technology, and how we process grief after the loss of a loved one.  With bots.

Having a good work/life balance is important.  Science has proven it, and a healthy sex life improves job satisfaction!

And speaking of, the (straight) media needs to leave Tom Daley alone.  We don’t know the details of his relationship with Dustin Lance Black, nor is it our business.

Clue is becoming a comic book!  With multiple endings, because of course!

If you’d like a good variation on Pachelbel’s Canon, take a listen:

There is now reusable tape that you can use to make anything a LEGO surface!  It bends!

As it turns out, Mr. Aonuma and I have the same favorite Zelda game: Phantom Hourglass!

Would you like to see Chris Hemsworth do his Thor workout? Of course you would.  You’re welcome.

The HRC brilliantly trolls right-wingers by buying ads on grindr during CPAC:

If you’re not reading The Player’s Tribune, you’re missing some of the best writing anywhere.  They posted this article dedicated to the memory of Brendan Burke.



Alright, let’s see what we have today.  This was written before the awful GOP bill was introduced, but here’s a real-life example of what people will lose if the Affordable Care Act is repealed.  And how it will affect the queer community as a whole.

A great Kiss Cam ad:

And check out this awesome ad coming out of Denmark, celebrating our similarities.

The Church of England has a small revolt to allow for same-sex matrimony.

Which is good, since The Church (in the greater sense) drives gay people to suicide.

Madeline Albright is a badass:

A great resolution to the story of a trans boy who led the BSA to change their membership policies.

A great cover of “Million Reasons:”

A great (very) short film about what it’s like to be trans in everyday situations, check it out.

And lastly today, the gay pep-talk you may or may not need to hear:

 



Alright, let’s take a look at what I have today.  First up tips for remaining productive in terrible times.  Important regardless, don’t forget to floss!

And speaking of, here’s some great advice from Surviving the World.

In defense of participation ribbons (or medals), and a funny look at running..

I’m pretty sure this is an accurate representation of conversations I’ve had:

The nerd takes on “Nevertheless, she persisted.” From Buffy to Katniss to Hermionie, as awesome as you imagine it.

I have never been prouder to be a NaNoWriMo Municipal Liaison!

An amazing look at OCD from the Player’s Tribune.

Justin Sayre is a treasure:

The perfect shower beer has been made!

Did you know that Pluto is still a planet…in New Mexico?

Ugh, I think what scares me the most is that Lord Dampnut is just a mirror to what this country is, and I can’t believe we’re that awful.

Two of my favorite people on the internet got together and made an awesome video:

And finally, one more from Surviving the World.

Have a great one!



Let’s see what we have today, first up, don’t worry, Drumpf is taking a long weekend.  Thank goodness there isn’t a war starting in Western Africa or North Korea is reading nuclear weapons.

Speaking of, Al Franken is having none of Betsy DeVos and her lies or support of gay “conversion” therapy.  DeVos also thinks we should have guns in schools because of bear attacks.  Seriously.

Dumpf is already planning slashing large chunks of the government, including essential services for women who are victims of domestic abuse, and the national endowments for the arts and humanities.

And in further horrific news, Drumpf has already shut down the office of AIDS policy.  To those saying “we survived Bush/Reagan, we’ll survive this,” I will remind you that we literally are missing a generation of gay men due to the AIDS crisis and Regan’s refusal to even say the word.  Check your privilege, not everyone made it.

But let’s look at the positives, here’s a great thank you to Obama:

Brian Sims is introducing legislation to ban conversion therapy in the state!

In other good news, the abortion rate is the lowest it’s been in decades! (expect that to change as Republicans seek to close health clinics, but for now, good news!)  A reminder, those of us who are pro-choice don’t want to see more abortions, and with comprehensive sex-ed as well as access to resources at Planned Parenthood, the abortion rate will continue to decline!

And here’s how to dedicate yourself to making the world a better place!

Okay, one last comic before we move on:

xkcd has a shout out to Yucca Mountain!  Yes, I’m an energy nerd.  I’ve accepted that (and a transportation nerd).

And JoHo looks at how maybe, just maybe, we’re not a horrible species.

I had a great weekend, and I’ll be uploading some pics and talking about it soon, so look for that!

 



Quick update today, first up, in case you missed it, watch President Obama’s farewell address.  For a little bit, it made me hopeful for the future, and is a great send off for the work we have to do during the next administration.

And speaking of Obama, he surprised Joe Biden with the Presidential Medal of Freedom with Distinction, and it’s touching (and well deserved)

A new trailer for The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild dropped, and it looks amazing:

A new study has estimated that Pokemon Go has added more than 144 billion steps to our global activity levels.  That’s awesome!

Mark Hamill (who voices the Joke in the Batman animated series) is doing god’s work by reading Drumpf’s tweets as The Joker.

Current regulations make gay men remain celibate for a year if they want to donate blood, and a man did that, to protest the discriminatory ban.

And finally, the IOS has a great video about how we have to work together, have a watch:

That’s it for today, have a great one!



Alright, let’s see what we have today, first up, in not shocking news, not having access to comprehensive sex ed leads to a rise in abortion.

Two Google Homes are talking on twitch, and it’s as crazy as you think it is.

The trailer for Bright Lights:

Hey look, well don’t actually look, we have a new organ!  Or at least, bits that we thought were separate are now considered an organ!  Don’t dissect yourself or anyone else to look, please.

New Year resolutions for gay men.  One of mine is to volunteer more and another is to be in more queer spaces.  To help with that, I’ll be volunteering at Outrageous Bingo again!  It’s a great night of fun bingo, huge cash prizes and a drag half time show!  It usually sells out, but I hope to see you there sometime this year (January is already sold out, it almost always does, so buy early)!  Another resolution: write more, especially this blog!

This week’s Savage Love column included a shout out to the FrontRunners, my running group (just a different chapter), so cool!

This analysis from 538 might not be accurate: we still don’t know much about Supreme Leader Snoke and his involvement, there’s a theory he’s been around since the prequels.

That’s it for now, trying to keep these shorter and easier to handle, with a little more commentary!  Have a great one!



It’s the yearly round-up of yearly round-up videos.  First up, DJ Earworm:

Google’s year in search, this one will probably make you cry (I did!):

And YouTube’s year in review:

The good things that happened in 2016, from Super Fruit:

That was all that I came across this year, but I also took the last week of the year off Facebook and Twitter, so your mileage may vary.  I’m still working on my personal 2016 wrap-up video, that will be coming (hopefully) soon!

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