Today's Mighty Oak

Wherein I talk about office relationships



Written: 1/2/2012

At work, we have some office relationships.  I, for instance, have an office girlfriend.

We work very well together and we’re good friends, hence the designation put upon us as office boyfriend and girlfriend.  Which I’m okay with, actually.

My one boss however, I’m fairly certain he thinks that I’m gay.  And he likes to hold that over my head, and loves to make comments about me being “straight.”  Sometimes it borders on the obsession level of NOM or Santorum.

Which is funny, since there are times I keep the department together and moving forward.  But anyway, he made some kind of snarky remark about it when I was talking with MOG (my office girlfriend).  She left to grab more coffee, and I went back to my work.

It happens a lot.  A whole lot.  And if I was in any position to report it, it would probably add up to harassment (along with comments from other coworkers of course), but I can’t really report it without outing myself and losing my job.  And while my direct supervisors would be at a loss without me, and I think, even though all their joking, would genuinely miss me and they really do appreciate me (even if we’re all overworked).

The local executive however, I think would love to be able to fire me for being gay (if he had a clue), I imagine it would give him some sort of brownie points to work his way up the ladder.  I have no idea if  that’s true or not, just a though.

So maybe it’s good that I have an office girlfriend.  Not only is she a wonderful friend, but it’s a good beard for now (and yes, I feel guilty for using her like that).

Update: This kind of systematic bullying that I put up with was why I hated the job so much.  Why I was under so much pressure and so unhappy for so long.  It hurt, it still hurts.  I know that I’m worse for wear because of it, and that it’s a lot to get past.

All my best,

The King of Spades

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